Person of Purpose – The First 100 Days

The first three months of blogging have passed, and I want to give you an update on what it has been like for me. Technically, since my first post was on June 3rd, the 100th day was September 10th. But you know, I like nice even numbers like 100, so I thought it would catch your attention. Right?

Being a newbie, I learned from other bloggers about how to write a blog that people will enjoy. Here are some things I gleaned:

What is the purpose of the blog? Experts say that to have an effective blog, you must, must have a specific purpose. Duh. That’s in my title. They say you shouldn’t have too many categories or that the categories can’t be too diverse. My six categories are CREATIVE, FOOD, HOME, MONEY, REFLECTIONS, and RELATIONSHIPS. So far, I have only posted in four areas.

Hi, I’m Nanci and this lifestyle blog is about inspiring and being inspired to live a more purposeful life.

What are some suggestions from professional writers? Set daily word counts. Okay, I set mine at 500 words. I started writing and The Art of the Open-Ended Question was written in a couple of hours. Cool!

Another suggestion. Only post excellent work. Starting out, I’m going to disagree with this one. If I waited until I felt a post was perfect, well, you get the idea, I wouldn’t have any posts. I will say that my first posts were a bit rough, but I think I have improved, and it is getting easier.

Another. Show your personality. At first, a friend said I was being too scholarly, and I wasn’t giving people much of my background. It could be all that home-schooling affected me, or maybe I just like academics. My son had six APA format essays with word counts of 1,000 to 1,500 words. It was an ordeal for him; for me it was fun.

How long should a blog post be? It depends. Some say posts can be as few as 100 words or as long as 2,000 words. My word counts varied between 188 and 1,148, but most were around 450 words. Don’t want readers to get antsy.

How do you write dialog? Stick to simple speech tags like “he said’ and ‘she said’ and avoid being descriptive like “I guffawed.” It sounds amateurish.

My first post was June 3, 2018. The title, Hey World, Here I Am! is an adapted line from the song Don’t Rain on My Parade, from the movie Funny Girl. This introduction outlined my desire to have a blog and what categories I planned to incorporate in my lifestyle blog. It was late at night and I finally posted it in the early morning hours. My reaction: Ecstatic!

For a rousing rendition of the song, listen to Linda Eder on YouTube.

I was so excited; my second post was the very next day! Called Peruvian Food – El Tesoro del Inca, it was a review of a down-home restaurant in Irving, TX.

Wow! There was a streak going on, and I published my third post the next day. Ah!! Called The Art of the Open-Ended Question, this was based on my need to improve my communication skills with my son.

Two weeks later, my fourth post in June was called My First-Time Homeowner Lawn Care Experience.

My fifth post, in June (amazingly) was called Struggles with Lawn Care Part 1. It was about my current home’s front lawn that had been woefully neglected and about my efforts to revive it.

Uh oh, something happened to my momentum, probably life, but I was only able to post once in July. My sixth post, called Struggles with Lawn Care Part 2 showed the progress of the lawn after one month of constant, loving, attention on my part.

My seventh post was called 10 Reasons Why I Love Lists, and it appeared from the comments that I am not the only one who loves lists.

My eight post called 100 Self-Care Activities for Body, Mind, and Spirit was born from my need to recover from burn out after home-schooling my son.

My ninth post called Struggles with Lawn Care Part 3 was a short update on the front lawn.

The tenth, eleventh, and twelfth posts were called Fall 2018 Cleaning Challenge, 2018 Fall Cleaning Challenge Week 1 Review – Getting Rid of 1,000 Things, and 2018 Fall Cleaning Challenge Week 2 Review – Getting Rid of 1,000 Things.

I would like to thank all of you, dear friends and loved ones for patiently reading my ramblings. Your comments to me personally and on the blog have been so supportive. I hope to continue creating more content to inspire living a purposeful life. If you have suggestions for more topics, please reach out to me.

100 Self-Care Activities for Body, Mind, and Spirit

We live in a fast-paced world with too much to do. However, if we aren’t careful, we could become stressed and lose our ability to handle our responsibilities.

I should know. Last year, I home-schooled my son for his last year of high school, driving him to and from community college for dual-credit, checking his school work, then taking him to work and picking him up late at night.

By the end of the 16-week semester, I was a wreck. I lost my focus and satisfaction in life. I was burned-out. Ask me a question, and all you’d get back was a blank stare. You get the picture. It wasn’t pretty.

So, what is “self-care” anyway? Get ready for a lesson in academics, or just skip this paragraph. The term was first coined and developed by Dorothea Orem, a nurse theorist between 1959 to 2001. Orem’s Nursing Theory defines self-care as “the practice of activities that individuals initiate and perform on their own behalf in maintaining life, health, and well-being.”

The thought is that any person can practice self-care to ease stress, illness, depression, or other negative emotions. These areas of activities involve the body, mind, and spirit.

I created this list of self-care activities to help me reset and restore my life. Now, as you read the list you may ask yourself, “Okay, how does drinking water or eating breakfast help you?” Well, you must put gas in the car before you start on a trip, right?

Another question: how does making your bed help you? I guess the short answer would be it prevents me from jumping back into it. But seriously, it helps you start your day. For an inspiring read check this.

Please keep in mind; this is my list. Feel free to ignore the activities that don’t excite you and focus on the ones that make a difference for you.

Body: These 28 activities help you stay healthy and provide energy.

  • Drink water
  • Eat a healthy breakfast
  • Eat lunch
  • Eat something organic
  • Have a favorite alcoholic drink
  • Eat a favorite food
  • Eat a light dinner before 7:00 pm
  • Stretch
  • Go to the gym
  • Take a walk
  • Play a fast-paced sport like ping pong
  • Maintain good posture
  • Establish a 2-minute walking routine every hour
  • Spend time in the sun (10 min.)
  • Breathe deeply for 5 minutes
  • Get a massage
  • Get a manicure and pedicure
  • Get a facial
  • Take a hot shower or bath
  • Have a home spa day
  • Get a haircut
  • Get all dressed up
  • Pet, play or walk the dog
  • Hug someone (12-15 seconds)
  • Use a diffuser with essential oils or use them on yourself
  • Take a nap (set a timer for 20 minutes)
  • Do your bedtime routine
  • Go to bed early

Eat a favorite food (smoked brisket mac and cheese with garlic bread)

Pet, play or walk the dog. Won’t you play with me?

I think it’s hilarious that I should list “eat something organic” and follow it with “have a favorite alcoholic drink” which is a gin and tonic that I indulge in about twice a year. Hee, hee.

Mind: These 22 activities help you to challenge your brain, reboot your brain, or give your mind a break.

  • Make your bed
  • Make a to-do list
  • Learn something new
  • Learn a new skill or take a class
  • Plan to be spontaneous (HA!)
  • Write a blog post
  • Be crafty
  • Do a jigsaw puzzle
  • Go to the library
  • Read a book or magazine
  • Play a game on the computer
  • Throw away an old piece of clothing
  • Declutter, get rid of 10 things
  • Organize a space
  • Clean an area of the house or yard
  • Plan a bucket list and work on something on it
  • Draw or color
  • Plan a vacation
  • Journal
  • Plan “me” time
  • Create a personal mission statement or read your mission statement
  • Pay down a debt

A personal mission statement can help you keep aligned with the values you feel are most important. For a guide to writing your own mission statement, read here.

Spirit: These 32 activities help you deal with stressful emotions.

  • Make a list of your accomplishments
  • Make a list of your personal qualities
  • Repeat positive affirmations
  • Listen to your “pump it up” songs
  • Go shopping
  • Buy some flowers
  • Buy a gift for yourself
  • Buy a new piece of clothing
  • Get a coffee
  • Go out to eat
  • Watch TV or YouTube videos
  • Go to the movies and eat popcorn
  • Write in a grateful journal
  • Go to an art museum or antiques shop
  • Be silly, laugh, and tell jokes
  • Do some gardening
  • Go to the zoo
  • Feed the birds
  • Go to the park
  • Go to a nursery
  • Take a day trip or a road trip
  • Burn a candle
  • Listen to music
  • Go people watching
  • Look at the clouds
  • Watch the sun rise or set
  • Look at the stars
  • Look at photo albums
  • Sing
  • Hire someone to do a chore
  • Create a self-care kit
  • Use your self-care kit

Buy some flowers

A self-care kit may be a box, purse or container that has calming objects that you can use whenever you feel the need to regroup. Some items in a self-care kit could include a journal and pen, stuffed animal, essential oils, lotions, pictures of loved ones, tea, a favorite snack, and tissues.

Spirit: These 18 include maintaining relationships and caring for others.

  • Practice kindness
  • Be humble
  • Forgive and forget a wrong done to you
  • Have deep conversations with family members
  • Study and meditate on spiritual topics
  • Donate for a good cause
  • Volunteer at a shelter, hospital or nursing home
  • Visit an animal shelter
  • Offer to be of assistance to someone
  • Cook or bake something and share it
  • Go to out to eat with someone
  • Go on a date with your significant other
  • Buy some stationery or stamps and write letters
  • Buy a gift for someone
  • Throw a party or host a luncheon
  • Visit with someone in person
  • Listen with empathy and be encouraging
  • Interact on social media

You will notice that many of these activities are things you do each day. To regain your focus, practice these self-care activities of the body, mind, and spirit. Which ones will you try today?

10 Reasons Why I Love Lists

As mentioned in my opening post, Hey World, Here I Am! I’m a list maker, so first, let’s talk about why I love lists. Simply put, I love making lists because it’s FUN!

You’ll also notice that some of my lists are numbered 100 Ways to… or some other nicely rounded number. I’ll tell you why.

And now, in no particular order, here’s my list:

  • Lists Aid in Getting Things Done

I make a to-do list every day. It lets me see what is most important to do. It’s a reminder that I have a dental appointment at 10:30 am, and if I forget it they’ll charge me a no-show fee. Ouch! Lists help me to be reliable and punctual.

  • Lists Hold Me Accountable

Let’s face it; not everyone has the time to be my accountability buddy so I have to be my own.

  • Lists are a Record of Accomplishment

In 2016, I had a project to write letters. The plan was to write every day. I ended up writing 147 letters. Not bad! I’m doing it again this year. So far, up to August 2018, I have written 80 letters.

  • Lists Inventory My Stuff

Lists help me discover whether I have too many or too little of something. I have too many things.

  • Lists Increase Self-Knowledge

Lists make me aware of myself. What things make me happy? When I feel down, I just look at my list and focus on a number of those things. The moon, rocks, acorns. Sigh. Notice a pattern?

  • Lists are a Map Towards Personal Development

Personal development lists help me define my goals, prioritize, develop new skills, map out the steps and deadlines and then act on those goals. Let’s say I want to have more fun in life. How am I gonna do it?

  • Lists Rank and Prioritize

Lists that rank and prioritize help me choose a course of action. Yelp’s Best Peruvian Restaurants in Dallas, tells me the restaurant I tried, El Tesoro del Inca was in the top 10. Read about it here. The 10 Happiest Countries in the World in 2018 guides me to consider a move to Finland (ranked number 1). No thanks. Not a cold weather gal. I guess I could make a list of warm weather places I’m willing to move to. 😀

  • Lists are Meaningful

A numbered list may be symbolic. For example, I made a playlist of 25 songs for our 25th wedding anniversary. When I presented it to my husband, he was visibly moved, saying it was the most romantic gift he had ever received.

  • Lists Help Me Brainstorm

Lists of 100 help me thoroughly analyze a subject. The first 30 on the list will be easy, a no-brainer. The next 40 will be harder and may show patterns. The last 30 will make me dig deep, going from the conscious to the sub-conscious to come up with unusual or unique solutions.

  • Lists Help Me Think Things Through

Why are some lists are bundled in nice, even numbers like 10 or 100? It’s because 10 is a complete number. So is 100. It instills confidence that I have thought it through. If I create a list of 7 Reasons Why I Love… I might think, “Is that it, Nanci? Couldn’t you come up with 3 more?” Or if I add 1 more, like 101 Ways to … that means I have really thought it out.

List-making makes me happy. Topics for lists are endless. Try it. It may relieve your anxiety, help you accomplish more, and motivate you to a better life.

I’d love to hear your comments. What’s in your list?

Hey World, Here I Am!

I’ve wanted to write a blog since 2008. Family and friends said, “Go for it!” Then, life happened, but four houses, several renovations, three years of homeschooling, an operation in the family, and lots of other things later, here it is!

I am a list maker, so you are going to see a lot of lists. I’ll start with a list of the lists I want to share:

  • 100 Self-Care Activities for the Body, Mind, and Spirit
  • If I Had Only 100 Things
  • Favorite Quotes
  • Things That Make Me Happy
  • 100 Ways to Show Love
  • “No Spend” Activities

I’m also going to post about ethnic cuisine. Dig in! I will share different kinds of food and review restaurants mostly located in the DFW area, but I’ll be sure to offer links to recipes that are similar. Eatin’ good!

You’ll also get to read my thoughts on being creative, stuff around the home, money, relationships, and general reflections. Basically, this blog is going to give you a glimpse of what it’s like to be in my brain.

So, get ready world, this is happening!